This Lenten traveller has been on “the road” for nearly a week. God has taken me places I didn’t want to go and yet the journey has begun to yield some wonderful fruit. I discovered a hardness of heart in myself springing from three roots which troubled my forward advance. I realize discovery is but the first step to healing these things but they are exposed now and the Holy Spirit is beginning His work upon them.
Have you ever been afraid of a road God told you to walk down? What did you do?
Yesterday in service our lead pastor preached a message concerning “spiritual health assessment”. He gave us five questions to meditate through over this next week regarding our spiritual health.With each question he offered 6 sub-points to ponder on each day.
Today’s meditation concerns our connection with other people and with God:
On a scale of one to five ( 1 being just at the beginning of the journey and five being well-developed in the area)…
How am I at developing authentic community within my church family?
How am I doing in the area of loving others? Giving grace to others? Forgiving others? (I guess that’s three in one but OK) Read I Corinthians 13 before answering this one.
How am I at intentionally cultivating my relationships with Christian friends? Spiritual mentors?
How am I doing with connecting with my immediate family relationships?
How am I doing at resolving conflict with others in a biblical manner?
How can I deepen my relationships with others?
It was question number 6 that hit me square between the eyes. Just before service yesterday God revealed I had believed a lie that was keeping me out of balance in my relationships. Somewhere in my life I came to believe that I had to choose between family relationships and church relationships. If I was going to have one then I would have to neglect the other. God showed me yesterday that if I am to be healthy it must not be either… or but both… and.
Over the course of family life and ministry I have failed to establish and enforce proper boundaries. I have given other people the right to declare my boundaries because I was afraid of rocking the boat. I was afraid of losing face. I was afraid of losing relationship. I am realizing that by allowing other people to set the boundaries for me I have given away the power to balance my relationships. I wonder what fixing this is going to entail.
Which question above most speaks to you?