The Roots in Rocky Soil

This post is written in response to:

http://dailypost.wordpress.com/dp_writing_challenge/digging-for-roots/

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Roots in Rocky Soil

by JE Lillie

I stood by the western wall of Blarney Castle staring at the twisted roots, remnants of the growth that had once encased the castle in its strength. The image took me back to my own family whose roots were not in Ireland but in a place just as rocky, some would say barren.

I grew up just South of the New Hampshire border smack dab in the middle of Massachusetts. I was third generation conservative Republican in one of the most liberal states in the union. My father was a small business man and civically minded citizen in the seventies, fully ensconced in the small business world, strongly favoring the free market economy while standing firmly against every philosophy of the “liberal pinko commies”, as he called them. Both Dad and Gramps served in town leadership throughout their lives choosing to ply their minority political stance wherever they could.

Dad was a hard man and I was his soft son. We were as different in manner as two men could be. He spent his days practicing his shot on ants in the back yard. I collected the little critters in jars trying to save them from my dad’s quick draw.

I began my spiritual journey early in life. At first I was fascinated by witchcraft. As a young teen I studied with the Jehovah’s Witnesses and then followed the bread crumbs God left me into the Pentecostal church my Uncle attended. My father an avowed agnostic (which really just means he refused to make any decision at all) instantly declared me crazy.

Maybe it was just teenage rebellion but I ran rather than walked deep into the church. Dad and I had many arguments over that and over my subsequent decision to become a minister. But when Dad became sick in the early nineties I left Bible College and came home to help in the business. After he died suddenly I launched into an eight year stint in the business world working newspapers and other management positions before finding my way back into the church.

I have served as an assistant pastor in the town I grew up in since 1996 and recently I was appointed to a town board in that same town. Somewhere along the way I seem to have captured my father’s sense of humor (something I didn’t even know he possessed when I was growing up) at least that’s what people tell me. I also captured his politics though I am sure he would probably think I have some “pinko commie” leanings were he still around. Somewhere in my journey I got a little tougher which tells me that maybe somewhere in his journey my father was a little bit softer and maybe he and I weren’t so different after all. Maybe we were just at different points of growth in this rocky New England soil.

The Thanksgiving Storymatic

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Life has changed much in the last few years. Kids going to college, moving to my mother’s home, my sister moving to The Netherlands, the addition of new family members have meant nearly constant change to 25 years of family tradition.

I have learned that celebration is a state of mind and not a set of circumstances. I think that too often when it comes to holidays we center our joy in traditions  instead of on the actual purpose of the holiday itself. When the traditions change as all traditions must in time we experience a sense of loss and many times instead of reinventing the day we just give up on it.

I have determined not to do that. I am sold on the idea that as I am in a new place in life I must make new traditions and rejoice in the making.

For instance I have discovered that I really enjoy cooking the meals myself. The size of the meal or the number of guests doesn’t matter. It is the joy of cooking. I also love cleaning in preparation of the arrival of guests.

This year my daughter asked if we could play a game after dinner. We played a pick up game of Pictionary on the Thanksgiving table cloth (not to worry it was disposable). And then we played this game I got for Pastor’s Appreciation Day called Storymatic.  Four of us took turns writing a line of a story at a time. It was great fun. The results are found in my next post called Thanksgiving  Storymatic II.

I guess my point in writing here is that holidays are about celebration first and then tradition. Traditions come and go but do not let their passing steal the joy that the holiday is meant to communicate. I rediscovered one of my holidays in a game called Storymatic. What new tradition is your holiday hiding in?

Share Your World 2014-Week 47

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This is Thanksgiving week, my favorite time in the entire calendar year. In honor of this auspicious day Cee has asked her contributors only one question.

List at least 50 Things You Enjoy.  

So here are a few of my favorites things:

1. The privilege of having a relationship with the God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit through the atoning death and resurrection of the Lord Jesus Christ.

2. Freedom from a life of sin, guilt and shame

3. a lifestyle of worship

4. My daughter Amanda.

Us on the way to Ireland.

Us on the way to Ireland.

5. My daughter Melanie.

I walk Melanie down the aisle.

I walk Melanie down the aisle.

6. My son,Joe.

Joe and Gramma Lillie after the wedding.

Joe and Gramma Lillie after the wedding.

7. And my son-in-law James.

My daughter Melanie married the man of her dreams last Saturday

My daughter Melanie married the man of her dreams last Saturday

8. My ex-wife Tina (how many men can say they still have a good relationship with their ex? I am forever grateful for this).

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9. I am thankful for the relationship I have with my mom.

10. And my sister.

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11. I enjoy the privilege of sharing the Good news with people as a minister.

Me preaching for Special Touch Ministries

Me preaching for Special Touch Ministries

12. and the church family.

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13. I enjoy having two church services now so that I can lead worship in one and be involved in prayer in one.

14. I enjoy art…

15. And artists.

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16. I enjoy music…

17. And musicians.

The band Cloverton played to a nearly sold out house in our church last week.

The band Cloverton played to a nearly sold out house in our church last week.

18. I love writing…

19. And writers.

20. I enjoy cooking (which is good since I am in charge of the Thanksgiving meal).

21. I enjoy being busy.

22. But I enjoy those quiet moments when I can just sit and hear the voice of God as it comes across the landscape.

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23. I enjoy travel.

24. I enjoy a good book.

25. I really enjoy a good cup of coffee. Though in a pinch I will even drink a bad one.

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26. I enjoy blogging.

27. I enjoy reading blogs.

28. I enjoy being part of this blogging community.

29. I enjoy my little dogs.

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30.  I enjoy a good movie. Anyone seen the new Hunger Games movie?

31. I enjoy a good concert. I am going to see the Piano Guys on Dec. 8th with the pastor who officiated at my daughter’s wedding

32. I enjoy photography.

32. I enjoy exercising.

Me reclining after walking up the "Rocky" stairs at the Philadelphia Art Museum.

Me reclining after walking up the “Rocky” stairs at the Philadelphia Art Museum.

OK that might be stretching the truth a little.

33. In enjoy singing.

34. I enjoy playing the piano, although my hand injury is still limiting this a bit.

35. I enjoy playing the flute (an old instrument I recently picked up again after many years).

36. I enjoy eating out.

37. I enjoy my gardens.

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38. I enjoy a good laugh.

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39. I enjoy studying the Word of God.

40. I enjoy a night at home watching TV.

41. I enjoy working with people on projects.

42. I enjoy pizza.

43. I enjoy a good grinder every now and then (hoagie, sub whatever you may call them)

44. I enjoy the ever-changing New England Seasons

45. I enjoy the fact that I now have a snow-blower as the season is about to change to winter tomorrow according to the morning news.

46. I enjoy peace-making.

47. I enjoy the fact that after a season of incredible busyness I am settling into a season of quiet.

48. I am enjoying writing again.

49. I enjoy life.

50 I enjoy eternal life even better!

Now check out how Cee’s other contributors have answered at

http://ceenphotography.com/2014/11/24/share-your-world-2014-week-47/

Share Your World 2014 Week 46

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It is time to share a bit of my world again. To see how others responded to Cee’s sharing questions go to

Share Your World – 2014 Week 46

Here are my answers:

On a vacation what you would require in any place that you sleep? 

I need a comfy bed, a clean room, and quiet. Nice views and a deep tub are an added bonus but not completely necessary.

Music or silence while working?

It seems I work faster or at least more focused when I have instrumental music playing.

If you were to move and your home came fully furnished with everything you ever wanted, list at least three things from your old house you wish to retain?

I think I would want my pictures, my wood stove and my book collection. I don’t have any family heirlooms or anything like that.

What’s your least favorite mode of transportation?

Camel?

Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?

I was grateful to get a little rest last week. This week I am looking forward to settling down to writing the new book. Oh and I am looking forward to having lunch with Mr. and Mrs. James Franklin.

My daughter Melanie married the man of her dreams last Saturday

My daughter Melanie married the man of her dreams last Saturday

Share Your World 2014- Week 45

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It’s that time again! Here we are sharing our world five questions at a time. Find out what the blogosphere is revealing about Cee’s other contributors at

Share Your World – 2014 Week 45

Meanwhile here are the questions and my answers:

What is your favorite color?  

I really like the color green. My current house is green. My last house was green. My office is green. My bedroom is green. My favorite season is green (I mean spring) and I recently took a whole lot of green pictures in Ireland.

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The bark at Torc

In what do you find the simplest of joys?

I really like to just sit with a cup of coffee in hand and watch the world go by. I don’t have a lot of time to do this but even a few minutes a day of just drinking coffee in silence as a bunch of strangers walk, drive, jog or bike past me totally unaware that I even exist is the greatest relaxation I can find.

Would you prefer a reading nook or an art, craft, photography studio?

Oh, a reading nook please, but it has to have insulated windows and a window seat with really comfy cushions.

What is at least one of your favorite quotes?

“Make time for the quiet moments as God whispers and the world is loud.” author unknown 

Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?

It was a HUUUUGE week. My daughter Melanie got married and then our church hosted the band Cloverton all in the same weekend. It was awesome and wonderfully tiring. Now I am looking forward to a season of relative quiet. This week is about napping! 🙂

Seven Word Weekend

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Normally these posts come out on Sunday but the weekend was so HUGE I didn’t have a moment to post.

My Youngest Is Now Mrs. James Franklin!

Skywatch Friday

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The promise as seen from Galway bay.

“Sometimes it’s important to work for that pot of gold. But other times it’s essential to take time off and to make sure that your most important decision in the day simply consists of choosing which color to slide down on the rainbow.”
Douglas Pagels, These Are the Gifts I’d Like to Give to You: A Sourcebook of Joy and Encouragement

My daughter is getting married this afternoon. So I am choosing my sliding color with great joy today!

Share Your World 2014 Week 44

It’s time once again for…

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Check it all out at

Share Your World – 2014 Week 44

Here are this week’s questions from Cee and my answers:

What is your most vivid memory of the kitchen in your childhood?

The most vivid memory I have of our kitchen is the red and black indoor outdoor carpeting that covered the floor wall to wall when we first moved into the house. My mother decided to remove it herself and I remember it took us almost seven years to get  all the glue scraped off those floors.

As a child, who was your favorite relative?

Oh gosh that’s a hard one! I am assuming we are talking extended family, so I would have to say my father’s mother. She was probably the one I felt closest too. I remember being by her bedside the night she died and singing her the old hymns of the faith as she prepared to meet Jesus. She was the first person to quote John 3:16 to me.

What did you or did not like about the first apartment you ever rented?

Now that’s much easier than the last question. Our first apartment was rented sight unseen from the Bible College I was attending. The walls were bright blue and the carpet was orange. You could literally sit on the toilet and put your feet in the shower because the bathroom was so small and we could not control the heat so it stayed around 85 all winter long (which is better than the alternative I suppose).

What kind of TV commercial would you like to make? Describe it.

TV commercial? Oh wait! I know! I know! It would be a commercial lauding the value of eating peanut butter and spaghetti sauce sandwiches!!!

Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up? 

I am grateful last week is over….’nuff said. I am soooooooooo looking forward to my daughter’s wedding on Nov. 8th!